So! We tried something different this year, and it has been kind of awesome, and even adorable.
Every now and again, when we have a playdate and he has a rougher time than usual (and hits or offends), we will ask him to dictate a letter for his friend afterward. I ask him to think about how his friend might have felt, and what he might say to make them feel better.
Here are a few examples...
Dear Violet, I’m sorry I said, "You are not nice." I am sorry because you were sad when I said, "You are not nice." You are nice. Remember when we ate chocolate-covered cherries? You are so great. Love, TobyOr the more concise:
Dear Olana, Sorry I hit you. Sorry I hit the mama. Love, TobyI like the process because it gives him time to think, makes him feel empowered and shows him how you can turn a situation around. He has been really proud when we've given letters to his friends. And they've been so excited to get a letter!
Anyway, just wanted to share! Thoughts? How do you teach your kids to apologize? I'm probably overthinking it, but oh well, ha!
P.S. We have also been dictating thank-you notes, which are equally entertaining (and so funny to see what they remember! Food mostly?)
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